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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time dedicated to shedding light on a pervasive issue that affects countless lives across the globe. One of the complex and sensitive aspects of domestic violence is how it often intersects with divorce. I thought exploring the relationship between domestic violence and divorce, sharing relevant statistics, and offering guidance on supporting those experiencing domestic violence was a good idea.

Domestic abuse is a serious crime. It is also common among couples who are divorcing. Nearly a quarter of divorces—24% in total—cite domestic abuse as a cause of divorce

When a couple ends a marriage for this reason, the divorce process may look different. An uncontested divorce arranged through a mediator may not be the best approach, despite its benefits in ordinary situations, due to the difficulties of an abuse victim negotiating a settlement with an abusive partner.

Domestic violence doesn’t stay confined to the home; it can often spill over into a survivor’s workplace, affecting their well-being, job performance, and safety. Understanding the signs and offering support to coworkers who may be experiencing domestic violence is crucial.

Recognizing Signs of Domestic Violence at Work:

• Physical Signs: Survivors of domestic violence may exhibit physical signs such as unexplained injuries, bruises, or frequent doctor’s appointments. These injuries might be attributed to accidents or falls, but it’s worth being concerned if they appear repeatedly. That said, many are experts at hiding their visible signs and will wear long sleeves and pants, even in the warmest weather. They will wear sunglasses indoors and will wear unusual amounts of concealer in an attempt to cover up the visible bruising.   
• Emotional Distress: Someone experiencing domestic violence may display emotional distress at work. They may seem anxious, depressed, or easily startled. Frequent crying, mood swings, or changes in behavior can also be indicators.
• Isolation: Survivors may become increasingly isolated at home and work. They might withdraw from social interactions, avoid coworkers, or make excuses for not attending work-related events.
• Excessive Calls or Texts: Constant calls or texts from an abusive partner can disrupt work and cause distress. If a coworker seems preoccupied with checking their phone and appears visibly distressed after communicating with their partner, this could be a sign.
• Changes in Performance: Domestic violence can be mentally and emotionally draining, leading to a decline in job performance. A once-reliable coworker might start missing deadlines, making errors, or struggling to concentrate.

Offering Support: If you suspect that a coworker is experiencing domestic violence, here’s how you can provide support:

• Approach with Care: Choose a private, comfortable setting to express your concern. Use non-judgmental language and let them know you’re there to listen and support them.
• Respect Their Privacy: They might not be ready to disclose their situation. Respect their boundaries and don’t pressure them to share more than they are comfortable with.
• Connect with Resources: Provide information about local domestic violence resources and hotlines. Encourage them to seek help and offer assistance in finding these resources if needed.
• Workplace Policies: Familiarize yourself with your workplace’s policies regarding domestic violence. Many companies have guidelines in place to help employees face such situations.

Resources for Survivors of Domestic Violence:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) – This 24/7 hotline provides confidential support, information, and resources for survivors of domestic violence.
• Workplace Responders: Many organizations have designated workplace responders or Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs) that can guide and support employees facing domestic violence.
• Local Domestic Violence Shelters: Research local domestic violence shelters or safe houses in your area where survivors can seek temporary refuge and support.
• Legal Aid Services: Connect survivors with legal aid services specializing in domestic violence cases, helping them understand their legal rights and options.
• Therapy and Counseling: Encourage survivors to seek therapy or counseling services. Organizations like RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) can help locate local resources.

Domestic violence is a pervasive issue that can extend its reach into the workplace, affecting the survivor’s well-being and job performance. Recognizing the signs and offering support to coworkers is essential. By creating a workplace environment that prioritizes empathy, safety, and access to resources, we can contribute to breaking the cycle of domestic violence and providing survivors with the support they need to reclaim their lives.